re: Dealing with a parent remarrying after one dies?

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I don’t want to lose the one parent I have left. I love my dad. I want him to be happy.

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Then let him alone and be happy for him. That way you can preserve your relationship with him. He obviously doesn't want to be alone. He was married for a lifetime with a companion he obviously loved.

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I don’t want him to be hurt or get screwed over. I don’t want my mom’s smart financial planning to be for nothing.

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Why do you think this might happen?

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Most of all, I don’t want my mom’s memory to be lost.

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That won't happen. Just because your father gets married doesn't mean your Mom's memory is going to be lost.

How well does he know the woman he wants to marry? Is she a widow as well?

I've seen a number of my parents' friends who lost their wives remarry pretty quickly. Much of the time, they marry a widow who was a good friend of the couple. They are happy with the years they have left and not having to spend them alone.

I hope you can come to terms with your father's desires and that everything works out well for you all.