re: For folks with 2+ kids, what made you stop at 2 or go for a 3rd one?

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We have two and both want a third. Our main hangup is money and our careers. We have finally gotten ahead and been able to start to save and live a more comfortable lifestyle and neither of us can really afford to take time away from work right now.

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Thank you for sharing that perspective. We are lucky enough that we could afford a 3rd child, but it would also mean our careers would stagnate a bit again and put a little bit of financial strain here in the short term as we focus on raising another child, taking maternity and paternity leaves, sick days etc. My wife is very career oriented and has sacrificed a lot the past 5 years, so asking her to do it all over again for couple more years seems a bit unfair, but she is pretty conflicted about it too. She really wants a girl and thinks having an adult girl around will be a blessing when we are old and retired, but obviously there is no way of guaranteeing that.