re: Does it get easier(losing a family member)?

I lost my mom when I was 16.

A year later a girl I went to high school with lost hers.

two years after that I ran into her at a party and she asked me the same thing.

I'm going to tell you what I told her: I can't answer that question. NObody can answer that question. Grief is different for everyone.


I refuse to tell someone "I'm sorry for your loss" or "I was sorry to hear about your dad/mom/brother etc.". i hated when people would tell me that. mainly because I didn't know how to respond to it. "Thank You?" That's just a weird thing to say.

I try to make the grieving person at least chuckle, if not laugh. Chances are they haven't done that since the death, if it's recent.

I also give them this advice: tonight- got to sleep. Wake up tomorrow, and go about your day. Tomorrow night, go to sleep. Repeat that process every day.

Eventually You won't think of them all day, every day.

And eventually, you won't think of them at all most days.



You won't forget them, but you will be able to live life without them.