re: Divoced baws of the OT. How did it go down?

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I'm hanging in there. My dad is basically the same. I've come to accept that he may never change and that may just be his new "normal". I have to focus on that my dad and and my family are ultimately doing ok though and back off but still be there for the crucial stuff (appointments, etc). The issues in my marriage have forced me to put more boundaries in place. I don't stress as much about my dad cause I have to now worry if I'm gonna be married 6 months from now. My family knows what is going on and thankfully my mom understands that I need to be more selfish and focus on me right now and fully supports that. My dad doesn't even call me now cause he knows he isn't gonna get the reaction his mental illness wants from me (a pity party in his honor).


I'm just trying to focus on myself and improving who I am as a person. Lose the bitterness I held onto that I thought I rightfully earned with all the crap I was handed recently. Started a women's bible study recently to improve my relationship with Christ. Trying to focus on my diet and exercise to lose the weight I gained from all the stress and PCOS and multiple medications I was on for fertility stuff. I'll either become a much better woman in general and wife for my husband...or for someone else later on if all that still isn't enough to make him want to stay in the marriage.


My marital problems stems from a lot of stuff. How I handled my dad, infertility, my husband's feelings of unhappiness in general at life, etc., etc. Things didn't go to shite overnight so on that note things won't magically get better overnight. I have to remind myself that all the time.

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If it makes you feel better everyone goes through this in marriage. They just ignore it and day to day go miserable. Be very sure if you make a split. I know it sounds cliche' but it is true. I just had a convo with an ex that we both said why didn't you tell me that years ago? Try "Marriage Encounter" <---look it up online. It can't hurt they have weekends for marriages.

Bible study is good. And I have seen your picture on here a few years ago you don't need a diet but exercise is vital.

So who is the new Bella? Bella or a dude messing with everyone. The 32-24-26 person is weird. Def a troll alter guy. I can see this in the little I read this board. Does she squirt? Is it really pee? I say it is not pee but that is another thread.