re: How does everyone here grip the club?

the “V”s created by your thumb and index finger on BOTH hands should point at your right shoulder (for right handed players). If they point toward your face then your grip is weak and if they point toward your arm or elbow then the grip is strong.

ETA: another common beginner mistake is the placement of the thumb of the right hand in a manner that creates tension against the grip. The thumb and index finger on the right hand should have near zero pressure on the grip.