re: Bode/wife should be charged w/ neglect (at the very least).

One more sad pool story: a family with pool was having a gazebo built. The construction guys left the gate open to the back yard as they were bringing in supplies, etc. for construction.
The next door neighbor's 3 year old wandered into the back yard and subsequently fell into the pool and drowned.

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I couldn’t even imagine how I could go on with my life.

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I started a reply to this tread three times. I’ve been asked this question in some form or another constantly for almost two decades.

Losing a child alters your life forever. I will never be the same person. But, life is about choices. I prayed about his death and for direction. I don’t wear my faith openly and certainly am not preaching here. I believe a life of despair is the easy choice. Living is hard. Choosing to be happy is hard. For example, it is hard to see your friends, parents of your child’s friends, talk about scouts, graduation, college, ball — things and life events neither I nor my child will experience. What is the alternative? Death? Does that somehow honor the memory of one’s child? Does that honor one’s parents? Does that honor God? I choose to live, to do my best to be a decent person, to help others, to be kind (admittedly something I struggle with in the presence of the willfully ignorant).

I realize I kid myself sometimes. I will never be whole again. There is a wistfulness that never goes away. I struggle with being still. Like an alcoholic I take happiness one day at a time. I go along for days, months until some event triggers the pang of the feelings of loss.

My heart goes out to Bodie Miller. You wake up happy and you go to sleep living a nightmare. I at least had a chance to say goodbye.

As I wrote earlier I struggle with being kind to the willfully ignorant. So I leave this for the poster who wrote Bodie Miller should be in jail. Maybe, time will tell. May you never live the agony Bodie Miller will live with for the rest of his life.