re: The disingenuous double standard of people marrying too young. What’s your take?

I did the whole young military marriage thing

It was pretty commonplace and acceptable at the time (still is). I saw nothing wrong with it. 10 wasted years later, I could kick myself in the balls for that decision.

People warned me but I thought I had the world figured out.

I did not fully appreciate the fact that I was still learning who I was as an adult nor did I anticipate my "adult self" being 180 degrees different than my spouse at the time. As we approached our 30's we truly matured away from each other.