re: Baby mama situation opinions

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So yes I know I need to go lawyer route but wth dads get zero! Child support isn't the issue that's black & white .... But what she offered me for visitation custody was triple what lawyers say I will get right now for an infant plus she's breast fed.

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The only thing that matters is that you get to be with your son.

Tell her you want to start over. Tell her you want to be a family for at least the first year or two of your son's life. Tell her you want to enjoy it...and that you two will address the situation later. In the meantime, tell her you are hopeful that you go back to the relationship before all of this.

Be in your son's life for 2 years. If it's not working out then (or at some reasonable time before then) then you can move to address it in court. Make sure she understands that you want to remove the pressure from the relationship...and that you won't bolting on her...and that hopefully that will allow you two to reconnect. You've got to remove the pressure. Until you are ready to make a final decision on your relationship with her, you have to make her feel like everything is great. Once you make a final decision you discuss. If you want to stay, it's a great conversation and maybe you discuss long term arrangements. If you don't want it, you've at least bought 2 years with your son and are in a better situation for custody...and you aren't in any worse position than you are now.

Good luck.