re: Serious self improvement question

For me, a big change I needed to make (a lesson I only learned via a failed marriage) is that I had to set the boundaries in my relationships better. It's tough to make those changes in existing relationships, but you have to make sure that people understand what you're okay with and what you're not okay with as far as how they treat you, and in your relationship with kids or underlings at work, what you're okay with in terms of how they behave. If you don't make consequences happen when people exceed their boundaries with you, they will always walk over you to the extent that you allow.

It's weird to think of this as self improvement but it has made a huge difference in my life.

If anything else I would say that for me and my (2nd) wife, I had to learn to trust her because I was projecting behaviors on her that I had carried over from my first marriage.

Me and my dog (1.5yrs old) and me and my kid (he's a newborn): patience patience patience. You are the adult, so don't get frustrated when they don't get something right away. They need time to grow and learn and you will be rewarded later if you keep your cool and stay consistent with them.