re: Is 5'11" Male Height On Online Dating Sites/TInder/Bumble A Death Sentence?

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I couldn't care less how many apps come out that are like tinder. But as someone who doesn't use them it's just damn hard to keep up. That was all I was saying.

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Think of it like an axis.

One the far left, you have Tinder and its online counterparts (Plenty of Fish, etc). They are designed mostly for hooking up, but I do know people who started dating off it.

Towards the middle and a little to the right of center, you have Hinge and Bumble. They are somewhere in between complete hook ups and complete exclusive dating apps, with Bumble probably being a little more skewed towards being a true dating app. Match.com and so forth are probably their online counterparts. Tons of good-looking girls who generally aren't taking it that seriously but are willing to meet up for a drink and see if you're a cool dude. Even if you have stellar game and are a good looking dude, you're most likely not hooking up on the first date if you live in New York, Chicago, LA, San Francisco, Boston, DC, etc; it happens, but it is the exception and not the rule. I've actually met some awesome people off both apps and am still friends with some of them after dating or hooking up or whatever else.

Coffee Meets Bagel is probably the purest and truest app that is a real dating app out there. It probably approximates to eHarmony and whatever other BS psych websites are out there for "finding your soulmate". It's the "find your future husband/wife" app.

The apps work a completely different way if you don't live in a major metro area from what I understand and have experienced. Bumble and Hinge basically become Tinder redux if you live in a metro area of less than 2 million. Larger cities with huge populations of single people have real differentiation between them.

I will say that since the New Year or so, my experience in New York and Chicago has been that most of the girls that you'd want to date or even hook up with have abandoned the apps altogether and are back to the old-fashioned way of doing things. The apps simply couldn't control the creepiness and awkwardness no matter what they did.