re: Have Female Friends = Not A Slayer (Theory) (Pic of Slayer)

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I was in my late 20s and divorced so I was hitting clubs ( and anything that would hold still) and I saw guys like that.

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that's the rub. I had about as wild a three years as I think I could've had, having gotten out of a long term relationship, then moved to Los Angeles.

the funny thing is that all of my close friends are female, there are literally no better a wingman on the planet than another attractive girl.

keys to an active and fun sex life:
-discretion, honesty, communication and respect. I always told women that I wasn't interested in anything more at the outset. some moved on. some didn't. some said they were moving on, processed the information, then came back. it turns out though if you actually show th a good time, a lot of them are like "sure, why not?". I never let them feel badly for us not dating exclusively. or for it not moving forward. they were amazing girls. never broadcast our relationship either. and when it was time to move on, we d talk about it then break it off and be friends. sometimes i had girls I dated, introduce me and set me up with their friends.
- confidence. I don't care what your thing is. but you do your thing and no one can do it better than you. no one can out karma me. it's literally impossible because well, I'm karma. women are attracted to confidence- creative. sexual. business. intelligence. taste. food. it literally doesn't matter.
- passion. be dynamite in bed. like off the charts dynamite. that extends from everything from the first kiss to the post sex curl up.

lastly, reconizance. at a certain point you see that there is an endless supply of beautiful, intelligent women in the world. you can get to know a hundred of them at a superficial level for days/months at a time, but the real relationships are forged in fire and time. I met THE girl and stepped off the carousel.

not married but haven't regretted it a day since. funny thinking back on single times. it comes up and I forget the era happened. hope it doesn't happen again. but wouldn't fear it. just not the road I'm choosing.