re: If and when your wife gets on your case, what is it usually about?

I got married when I was 25. Got divorced when I was 27, because I "didn't communicate enough and make her feel loved". I said okay. Two years later, I am happier than I have ever been, and I don't see getting married ever again. I hang out with my friends more, do whatever I feel like on the weekends, eat where I want to eat, and generally just live life more. Got a cool little apartment walking distance to the beach, and I get to go surfing almost every day. No getting bitched at about minor trivial bullshite, no dumb social events to awkwardly smile through, etc, no PMS bullshite. It's great.

What's the point? Marriage is just the "next step" people take when they are having a good time with each other and the sex is good. I discovered that for me, it was a big mistake. I'm not going to lie and say everything is perfect, there are definitely dry spells in my dating/sex life, but they are generally far enough apart to not bother me.

I refuse to argue about anything.

I refuse to have my case gotten upon.

I'm a grown arse man. She gets on the kids' case, not on mine. If she has any chief complaint it's that I do things when I get around to them - usually not on her schedule. But she knows badgering me will only delay things more.

does anyone's wife ever get on them about HOW they do shite?

For instance, you do the ducking dishes but it's HOW you had them loaded, that makes her lose her shite?

Stuff like that?

My favorite was...

Ex... I need you to do some things around the house while I am gone today.

Me... Sure thing babe. Leave me a list on the counter when you leave and I'll take care of it.

Ex... I'm not leaving you a list. You should know what needs to be done.

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1. Not Listening

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She can repeat herself three of four times and I won't hear. It drives her crazy.

I think I remember her saying something once about where I left a deposit, but I was almost asleep so it could have been something on TV about Uncle Billy and the Building & Loan.

If she ever complained it would sound like Charlie Brown's teacher's voice.

tl/dr: Don't know if it happened and don't care to know.

1. Not listening. (If I'm not looking at you while you're talking, then I'm not paying attention. So don't try to start a conversation while I'm in the middle of a show or game and expect me to pay attention.)


6. Not reading her mind (I'm a man. I don't "read into shite". You want something, tell me. You want me to do something, tell me. You want to "punish" me for something, at least fricking tell me why.)