re: Any Married, Separated, Engaged or Single Males Here? An Important Tip...

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i've seen many in my professional life.

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When I was in that business - and there were children involved - I would ask: "Was X a good father/mother?" Almost invariably the answer was "Yes". If it was, I would then say: "Okay - then I'm going to put some conditions on you for my represntation. I'm here to get you a divorce and to make sure there is a fair and equitable distribution of the marital assets AND a child custody arrangement. Keep in mind - I do not intend to pursue this as some sort of extension of all the marital fights and disputes. We're ending the marriage, so that renders all of that moot. Even though you're paying me, I view myself as an advocate for the children first and foremost. These children didn't choose this and they're entitled to a safe, loving home and access to both parents. In fact, I believe that should be the paramount concern of both parties, both attorneys and the court. I intend to proceed from that starting point. Now, having said all of that, do you still want me to represent you?"

No client refused on those grounds. That is where I believe attorneys and courts can improve this system - by taking that approach, rather than the mercenary, "I got into lawyering because I like to fight" motherfrickers. Save that for PI work.