re: Update (w/a twist): This girl wants a first date that isn't a bar or restaurant.

Bar/restaurants and movies are terrible first dates when you don't know much about each other. I've always enjoyed a date that involved an activity, especially if you can make it competitive in a playful way. The activity helps keep you entertained without forcing awkward conversation and will give you more to talk about. I think it's a lot easier to determine compatibility in those situations as well.

Putt-putt. go carts, batting cages, bowling, painting/drinking places, etc. Even if she sucks you'll both enjoy the day more and won't feel like you completely wasted your time. She's 31 and is over the whole standard bar/restaurant thing.