re: Update (w/a twist): This girl wants a first date that isn't a bar or restaurant.

This wasn't a demand. It came up in casual conversation before I asked her out. On second thought, you are probably right. That could be a demand in female speak.

Btw. First date, but we met once through mutual friends before and hit it off. This is just the first planned date.

The wine and painting is good idea, also see if there is somplace that does couples cooking classes.