re: Shift workers.....dealing with family and missing holidays cause you are working

So Easter Sunday morning you wouldn't want to accommodate them by having B pick you up at work, drive straight to the inlaws, spend 3 hours for brunch then head home, get 5 hours of sleep and let B bring you back to work?

That's what I'd do for Easter then crash all day Monday.

ETA: I had a three year stretch of shift work and chopped up work/family life. I hated it but doing stuff like above was typical.

At that point, we started hosting things to avoid the commute time.

ETA2: Anyway Nursie, that's my midnite snack thoughts & back to bed.

Good Luck!