re: Anyone here every give a eulogy?

First, my condolences for your loss.

I've had to do a few eulogies, both spoken and written.

I will give you a tip that works for a lot of people who struggle with eulogies.

Hand an index card to each of your family members and a few friends. Ask them to write on the index card their favorite memory or experience with your dad. They can remain anonymous if they want.

Order the index cards, give a brief introduction and read the cards.


At the end, share your favorite memory.

That always makes for a really good eulogy because everyone feels like they have a part of it, and you never know what's going to come up. Heartfelt stuff, humor, you name it. And it takes the pressure off of you to be brilliant when you feel at your worst. It also allows you to just read, and you have less of a chance of falling to emotion if you are just reading.

Eulogies are tough, tough. If you're not an experienced speaker, take my advice. It will take a lot of the worry away for you.