I try but she's miserable that her BF is obviously flirting and having a great time schmoozing other women. I also try talking with other people in the setting but it just gets old. I know the textbook answer is to mingle and flirt with other women myself so I guess I just have to buck myself up and do that next time.

I fricking hate these games though.

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Posted by SabiDojo

Open to any suggestions.

Member since Nov 2010

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Posted on 11/24/14 at 4:16 am to SirWinston

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She'd have never acted this way before we went exclusive b/c she was still trying to win me over.

She is testing boundaries, dude. She's the cheating type.

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Posted by AU4real35

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Posted on 11/24/14 at 4:33 am to SirWinston

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I fricking hate these games though - I was way happier dating multiple women where I had the power and didn't have all my eggs in one basket. I feel like I cuckolded myself by sticking only with this chick and now that she has me she can pull shite like this. She'd have never acted this way before we went exclusive b/c she was still trying to win me over.

So what you're saying is that your insecurities are getting the best of you... You talk about making more money than the guy, which is a sure sign of insecurity... Sounds like you're ruining the relationship but you'll blame it on her... Did I miss anything?

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Posted by crispyUGA

Upstate SC

Member since Feb 2011

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Posted on 11/24/14 at 8:03 am to SirWinston

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I feel like I cuckolded myself by sticking only with this chick and now that she has me she can pull shite like this.

The answer is simple, my friend. Kick. Her. To. The. Curb. A relationship that makes you feel like shite or a lesser man is not a relationship you want to be in.

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Posted by Boudreaux35

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Posted on 11/24/14 at 9:22 am to SirWinston

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She'd have never acted this way before we went exclusive b/c she was still trying to win me over

That's your answer right there. You have to convince her that she hasn't got all your attention now. She's convinced you.

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Posted by LSUnation78

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Posted on 11/24/14 at 9:28 am to SirWinston

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I try but she's miserable that her BF is obviously flirting and having a great time schmoozing other women.

GTFO then.

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Posted by LSU Fan 90812

A man more eviler than Skeletor.

Member since Feb 2005

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Posted on 11/24/14 at 4:27 pm to SirWinston

Ask the guy for a favor. Appeal to his innate need to feel superior. Be gregarious. Self-deprecate. After he does one favor, make sure to shower him with praise and thanks publicly. This will feed his ego. Then ask him for another favor. Because he has done one, he will be more inclined to do another, and before you know it, this guy is getting your shine box for you. The guy your girlfriend "worships" (likely only your perception) is now your errand boy.

This is a psychological effect known as the franklin effect - LINK

Quit playing games with people on their terms. If something doesn't work for you, change tactics. You can't always out alpha someone. Be smarter. Find what works for you. Turn strengths into weakness. There is no pull stronger than the ego.

You're welcome. Also, in the words of weezer, "want a girl who laughs for no one else." If she likes this guy there is nothing you can do. If you think it's really a thing- cut her loose. Someone out there wants you as bad as she wants him.

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Posted by tigerfoot