re: I know 2 people that have Herpes and don't tell their lovers.....

HSV2 (down there) skews heavily to certain demographics. Even so, 25% of population is probably understated a bit due to stigma.

HSV1 (cold sores) is almost ubiquitous however some never have symptoms. If you get it later in life the symptoms can be rather severe.

There are occasional breakouts of "mat herpes" among wrestlers where the HSV1 virus presents on the limbs or other less common places.

You can have either strain anywhere on the body but HSV1 prefers light so usually on the face/lips/nose. Doctors have a relatively high incidence of it on the fingers/nails due to touching infected areas of patients.