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It's about sexual addiction, and the reason it keeps coming up (no pun intended) is because of how much it dominates our society with sex on the brain, and how much you hear things like porn and sexual addiction has hurt relationships with partners not being able to measure up to a ridiculous standard set by the porn industry through fantasy.

What are you watching where this issue keeps coming up? Honestly...I never EVER hear about this scourge of our age, other than on here where the most religious minded here seem hellbent on making sure no one sees a boob or spills any seed.

Men are visually stimulated. We all understand this. Before regularly accessible porn, this need was met with anything guys could get their hands on, up to and including the Sears catalog. This isn't news. Porn on the internet, like credit card swiping at the gas station simply makes this more efficient.

Males also have a biological need to release sexual pressure. Hell...we can see it in other animals. I once lived with a guy in college who's stupid bird would rubs its junk on its swing so loudly we had to cover it up with a sheet to make it fall asleep. Masturbation is completely natural.

The problem begins almost entirely from a religious perspective as guilt creeps in. You said it yourself...the whole "wandering eye" stuff. Jimmy Carter's "I've lusted in my heart" crap. We all look...and we all look with lust...if you define lust as simply thinking, "Huh...she's hot. Bet she would be fun..." Blame biology. The difference between merely looking and ACTING is what constitutes a problem for most of us.

But like everything, if you can't go through family dinner without pulling up some porn site and spanking it at the dinner table, then yes...I'd agree...you have a problem. If, however, you occasionally pull up a porn site (or grab your wife's Victoria Secret like some kind of peasant) and rub one out, then no...I would never define that in any negative way.

The mileage of others CLEARLY varies...