re: How do you deal with the death of your parents?

Time helps a lot.

Write a letter, expressing unresolved feelings or thoughts. Keep it, burn it, whatever feels right.

Do something that helps you feel connected to them. Plant a small garden, grow tomatoes, go hunting, etc.

Don't shy away from your feeling around special times or events - like your birthday/holidays/parties. Let yourself feel the loss and how much you miss them in your life.

If you have kids, take the part of your parents you loved most and try to show it/emulate it to your kids - pass on what was so special about them.