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re: How do you deal with the death of your parents?
Posted on 1/21/14 at 8:24 am to tigersownall
Posted on 1/21/14 at 8:24 am to tigersownall
when you start cleaning out the house and family starts fighting over stuff you will be over it.
ativan helps too
ativan helps too
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Posted on 1/21/14 at 8:31 am to tigersownall
you never get over it ... it changes your world
hang out with them while you can
hang out with them while you can
Posted on 1/21/14 at 8:39 am to tigersownall
If you have faith in the here after sure does make it easier.
Posted on 1/21/14 at 9:00 am to tigersownall
We lost my wife's grandpa two days ago. I can tell you that just by them being able to tell him how much he meant to them and how much they all loved him, it eased the pain but will never make it easy. Everyone will grieve differently and some more than others. The past couple days we've spent talking about a lot of the stories he shared, watching videos of him singing his "Swamp Pop" music and just appreciating the man he was.
My advice would just be (when the time comes) to look at the life they lived and hope that in some way you can live it the way they did. My affection towards my wife has changed for the better after watching her grandmother tell him goodbye. She appreciated all of the things he did for her and the way he loved her and that's exactly what I want. I want the people I care about to know how much I care and never have a doubt.
My advice would just be (when the time comes) to look at the life they lived and hope that in some way you can live it the way they did. My affection towards my wife has changed for the better after watching her grandmother tell him goodbye. She appreciated all of the things he did for her and the way he loved her and that's exactly what I want. I want the people I care about to know how much I care and never have a doubt.
Posted on 1/21/14 at 9:13 am to tigersownall
I lost my Mom 3 years ago, just before Christmas. It was really difficult and to be honest, there is not a day that goes by that I don't think of her.
It is just one of those things you push through. It's tough though.
It is just one of those things you push through. It's tough though.
Posted on 1/21/14 at 11:53 am to tigersownall
something I don't want to think about at all.
Posted on 1/21/14 at 12:17 pm to tigersownall
I lost mine together, it is a moment in life that you realize that you are totally alone in this world and my advice is you had better have your shite together. From that point forward you will have no one else to go to for help. I had to learn this the hard way. Not to put yourself in any position that you cant get yourself out of.
Posted on 1/21/14 at 4:22 pm to tigersownall
I was just shy of my 51st birthday when my Dad died in August 2002. He had suffered a major stroke in December 1997 and was totally dependent on my Mom for the rest of his life.
When I heard that he died, I was relieved that his suffering was over, but cried like a baby at his funeral. None of my siblings nor my son had ever seen me cry before. To this day I miss him; his sense of humor; and his wise advice. It only gets easier with time. Faith that he is in a better place or at least, no longer suffering, is helpful. If my Faith is indeed fact, I am sure that he would not trade places and come back. It is for ourselves that we feel badly because we miss a loved one so much.
I had lunch with my son on Sunday. He told me that his mother (my ex-wife) was very ill. He is dealing with it as best he can while he pursues his schooling. I wish I could do something for him, but all I can do is be there for him. Death comes to us all, but that fact does not make it any easier when it happens to a loved one.
When I heard that he died, I was relieved that his suffering was over, but cried like a baby at his funeral. None of my siblings nor my son had ever seen me cry before. To this day I miss him; his sense of humor; and his wise advice. It only gets easier with time. Faith that he is in a better place or at least, no longer suffering, is helpful. If my Faith is indeed fact, I am sure that he would not trade places and come back. It is for ourselves that we feel badly because we miss a loved one so much.
I had lunch with my son on Sunday. He told me that his mother (my ex-wife) was very ill. He is dealing with it as best he can while he pursues his schooling. I wish I could do something for him, but all I can do is be there for him. Death comes to us all, but that fact does not make it any easier when it happens to a loved one.
Posted on 1/21/14 at 8:06 pm to tigersownall
I lost my Dad in October. Diagnosed with Alzheimer's in 2008 and downhill all the way. For as long as I can remember he was adamant that he never wanted to go to a nursing home. He said he had saved enough money during his lifetime that he could afford to be taken care of at home.
But to the nursing home he went in the spring of 2012. That decision was made by my mother and brother. I was not consulted. I have not spoken to them since, not even at the funeral, and doubt that I ever will. So basically, my entire family of origin is gone. It was my sister-in-law who called me the day he died.
I visited him as often as I could. During the last few months I struggled with wanting him to spend his last days at my house. It would involve quitting my job and fighting my family in court. Before you knew it, it was too late.
He died early in the morning and alone. Nurse found him when she went to check on him. Not the way I wanted this to go at all.
Sadness and bitterness haunt me every day.
But to the nursing home he went in the spring of 2012. That decision was made by my mother and brother. I was not consulted. I have not spoken to them since, not even at the funeral, and doubt that I ever will. So basically, my entire family of origin is gone. It was my sister-in-law who called me the day he died.
I visited him as often as I could. During the last few months I struggled with wanting him to spend his last days at my house. It would involve quitting my job and fighting my family in court. Before you knew it, it was too late.
He died early in the morning and alone. Nurse found him when she went to check on him. Not the way I wanted this to go at all.
Sadness and bitterness haunt me every day.
Posted on 1/21/14 at 8:14 pm to tigersownall
Tell them every chance you get that you love them. When you look back after they are gone you will be glad you did.
Posted on 1/21/14 at 8:16 pm to tigersownall
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This has been on my mind lately. Like everyone else, the folks are getting up there. They aren't in the greatest health. I've been through some heartache, but these are the only two rocks in my life. It's just hard for me to imagine a world without them.
Time is the only thing you have to deal with it...
I was crushed when I lost my mom, you kind of go through different cycles of denial and finally acceptance. But no matter how bad you feel, days become weeks, become months, and you realize that you will be ok.
Posted on 1/21/14 at 8:40 pm to tigersownall
You never get over it, you just deal with it. As time goes on it hurts less; yet more. My life changed the day I lost my dad.
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