re: People are born Gay, but are trained to be Feminine or Masculine?

This is an interesting topic. I know two guys that are gay. Both of these guys admit to having been molested my a male when they were younger.

So... did the Male molester just happen to pick the two male children that were "born gay" or did the first sexual exposure make them choose that lifestyle?

Also, my wife has a lifelong friend that came out late in life as a lesbian. Same scenario, molested by a woman. What drove what?

For the record, I know other gay guys but just haven't spoken with them about it.