re: Wife is mad because I won't go to in laws twice in three weeks

Everyone’s different. Maybe that’s a real compromise for y’all, and that’s fair.

It would be an incompatibility for me personally to go sleep at anyone's house that often. With kids, MAYBE. Maybe. But without? No way.

I could maybe see it if they live somewhere cool and y’all make a fun weekend out of it, but even then I wouldn’t need that monthly. If you’re just sitting in the house looking at each other all weekend, brutal.

Like I said earlier, I feel it is possible to maintain a very close and healthy relationship with your family members by regularly talking to them on the phone and seeing them just occasionally.