re: What are women actually attracted to?

Aspy baby girl, now would be a good time to broach the "men can't communicate" issue. I think it's largely based in fact. But maybe women want to over communicate a little? To the point that a man feels like he's incidental, just a conduit for her to work out her emotions. He starts to feel like he's her therapist, and that what she truly means by "good communication" is someone who will silently endure her way-too-frequent manufactured indignations. I mean I can "communicate" all day long, but what I won't do is allow myself to be a prop to a woman's ever-changing mood. We can't sustain drama for drama's sake. That's for girls.

Which is why men consistently value a woman who is PEACEFUL and who values his masculine need for peace as much as she values her feminine need to emote. Men handle full frontal aggression well, but what we LOATHE is constant low-grade sniping. Or what a lot of women refer to as "communication" The data is clear on this too. Women who delve too far and too frequently into their own psyche, often can't escape it. And they make the men around them tense and miserable.