re: 12 Year Old Girl with BPD

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She doesn't make friends because she is a pathological liar and general misfit. She starts new friendships but then they fizzle out because the other kid ends up not liking her very much.

She also is very unhygenic. I have to basically make her shower and brush her teeth/hair.

As far as hobbies goes, she doesn't do anything constructive. We have tried many times to get her to try different activities (soccer, piano, drama, volleyball) but it always ends prematurely or in disaster.

I am holding out hope, but the truth of the matter is right now she is basically evil. She can't be reasoned with. She will patronize you to avoid addressing anything substantial.

The fact of the matter is you cannot force someone to try and be a decent person if they are hellbent on doing the opposite. I never imagined things would get this bad. I cannot relate at all to her and her behavior, and neither can the rest of my family.

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You're describing something here, that to state the obvious requires long term care/hospitalization.

Now it's been many years since I've delt with this part of it and I don't know if the guidelines have changed or not. But for most insurances, once acute care has failed a certain number of times, long term benefits kick in (assuming they're a part of your health plan).