re: Dating as a 40 Year Old Man, How Realistic is it?

The problem with dating over 30 as a whole is that everyone has their extra baggage at that point. Dating at 40 involves potentially older kids, divorces, etc.

I started dating my wife when I was 33 and married her when I was a month shy of 35. We are still married and have two kids. I'm 49. Prior to her I was a in a long term relationship that began in college and went south just shy of me turning 30. In between those times I dated a lot and it was hard finding the right person. I met my wife at work and we were friends for two years before we ever went on a date. She is also 6 years younger than I am. We met at work.

Be patient, don't force a situation just to be with someone. Understand everybody has baggage to some degree. Most importantly figure out what you want and don't settle. I'm not talking about the physical appearance stuff (that is important). I'm talking about the woman you need long term. Find five things that are deal breakers or things you must have in a partner. Then talk to friends and make sure you are being realistic. Then find someone with those qualities.

Church is not a bad place to look for a spouse for what it's worth.