re: My Mom has been getting worse with her dementia

Both my parent got and died from it.. my mil has it now and has no idea who we are..

It is sad and no solutions.. you just have to live and help with it…doctors can give some medicine to slow it down ( I think you are past that)… some medicine to “calm” them down.. it gets worse’s in evening.. they call that sundowner


But look at ss benefits / medicare etc .. will not help with aging but may be some loopholes because medical..

Fortunately my mil has money and is in an excellent place in Nola… my parents were a little different.. we found a modest place for them… my dad was retired military.. did either of your parents serve.. if so they may qualify for va services which was ok and where both of my parents ended up together in the same room in the dementia ( lock down )wing..

Be careful of paid help .. you can find adult sitters.. some good but I saw a lot of people try to take advantage of elders with mental issues and any money or things around that would not be missed.. would disappear or get them into deals like contracts for services.. live in maids etc…you will have to be very proactive in helping and protecting them.. when they call you a name you have no idea of who that is and take a swing at you… just remember this is not them and roll with the punches and remember who they use to be..

Some if my friends had them move in with them.. get a sitter for when they were at work.. and just struggle through it with them.. as op said there will be support groups and social service organizations in the area your at.. reach out..

Take care:(