re: Is cursing around your kids indicative of trashy parenting?

That’s a non starter around children if ever said in anger especially. A few well placed bombs for comic effect now and again is probably good for the bond. . Now that they are all in college it’s not a big deal and I sort of enjoy when they tell stories with well placed profanities. It just demonstrates they are truly comfortable and relaxed. I think it’s more important for the parent at any age to show some kind of restraint though.