re: Mom ships son's ashes through UPS and . . .

I am convinced my wife and her brother have lost their mothers remains. She and I had them in Italy just after her death and at some point she gave them to her brother, she claims. He claims she still has them. They do not know, as far as I know, that the other one has no idea where they are and thinks the other one has them somewhere. I have casually asked both of them - to my wife "did you ever give your mom's urn to your brother"? She will answer yes.

I have asked my BIL "have y'all ever done anything with your mom's ashes" to which he will respond "not yet, (My wife's name) has them". Neither of them have ever asked the other and it ain't my place to whack a hornets nest.


I'm going to be cremated and I don't give a damn what anyone does with my remains but I have asked that they do it immediately before they forget and some old boy buys a storage unit at auction and finds the damned things....just dump 'em anywhere, what do I care, but don't put some poor bastard in a position to have to deal with them.