re: Any of you married men with families ever quit your job without having another lined up?

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Any of you married men with families ever quit your job without having another lined up?

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I did.

My advice to you is, don't.

At the time, I had been traveling for over 6 years, weekly.

I made an emotional decision, and I made a selfish decision. And that time, I didn't view it as such, I thought I was being logical, but I wasn't. I was actually being selfish, without meaning to be, but that's how it was interpreted by my then wife -- along with being disrespectful to her, and her feeling that I took her for granted. She was right all along, but my pride got in the way, and I deflected and avoided taking ownership for way too long. It caused resentment, anger, and disconnect. Our marriage never recovered from it.

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Should I just quit and start spending all my time looking for another job, or should I stick it out and try to find another job while working the 50 hours a week?

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Have a conversation with your wife, but stick it out, until you can find another job --- or you gain your wife's permission to leave now. This is more about being respectful to your equal partner than anything else and allowing her to have a say, because this is the part about two becoming one.

I failed at this, and this was one of the reasons why my marriage started to deteriorate.