re: Today is the 45th anniversary of the worst day of my life

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Wrong. Time heals nothing. In my experience you never “get over” losing someone close to you, but you eventually get better at dealing with it.

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I do think time heals lots of things. I'm just not sure the loss of a super close loved one falls into that category. But shite like bad relationships and whatnot, time definitely heals that kind of stuff.

The problem with losing a parent or (especially) a child is that the pain is so strong and so close to home and heart that it doesn't ever go away. I agree with you that time more or less helps you deal with it better, but that's not enough. If I ever lost my boy I'm not quite sure what I would do or how I wuold go on in life.

But this is from the "My daughter passed away" thread from a few weeks ago, and it's not only good advice, but heartbreaking at the same time. And I think it applies for a thread like this:

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I am so sorry, Hurricane. Praying for you and your wife.

Having gone through virtually the same thing about 20 years ago myself, I would like to offer some advice:

1. It will take you months before you can make it through a day without crying

2. It will take you years before you can make it through a week without crying.

3. I will let you know how long it takes to get thru a month without crying when I find out.

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There are more bullets, but those three have stuck with me ever since I saw that thread. 20 years passed and this person still cries at least once a month for the baby they lost. That kind of grief and pain is on another level and I can't imagine dealing with that.