re: Anyone Ever Divorce a BiPolar Spouse

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I wish I had gotten mental health support before my divorce. I had no idea I was bipolar back then. Today, therapy has made me so much more self aware of my up and down cycles and how to manage them. I really should be on medication, but I have a crippling fear of the stuff, and the one time I tried it, I really didn’t like the side effects, which only served to justify my fears in the first place.

I completely understand dumping someone who won’t get help. It took a lot of therapy for me to realize or understand what a burden I had been placing on others. A bipolar partner who is just letting that stuff fly can cause HUGE problems, and it’s frustrating because they’re often so great, and don’t even notice what they’re doing is unusual in the moment. It’s like being in a throuple relationship with Dr. Jackyl and Mr. Hyde. If they’re not working on keeping those flips somewhat moderated, the roller coaster will eventually break everything down.

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I wish there was a DM system here. Bipolar 1 here. Got on meds/stable 15 years ago. It's near impossible locally to find support groups to just vent and go through the day to day to maintain. Trust me, I'm stable and healthy but meds/therapy just makes symptoms manageable. They don't just "go away".