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So if an alcoholic wants to buy booze with their money the spouse shouldn't do anything about it?

They are married. That makes them a team. He clearly had a problem with her weight, so he needs to address it by making changes. Take ownership and limit junk food in the house. If she has a problem with that, than good now we know she is more of the problem because she would rather the food than her husband. But if he sits back and does nothing but complain, than he's not much better.

I would imagine she has access to a grocery store and possibly even shops at one from time to time. What you are suggesting would be not only pointless but would likely lead to even more problems with not only her but with friends and family as well when they learn that he's literally attempting to dictate what she's (a grown adult with her own agency) allowed to eat or what food she can bring into the house.

That's not how you persuade your partner to lose weight. It's how you breed resentment.

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Posted by ThoseGuys

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Posted on 10/30/23 at 7:26 pm to northshorebamaman

His family already thinks he's a dick. He got a divorce. Now maybe he can see his kids on the weekend. That sounds way better than what I suggested.

"Hey honey, I was thinking about it, how about we cut out junk food in the house? You know we have the kids and I don't think it would be the best for them to always have access to it. Plus we can improve our diet and provide a great example for our kids."

Yeah that sounds super controlling. If you suggest that and she refuses to change or goes against what you feel is best for the family than it is no longer you leaving your wife of 10 years for being chubby but rather you felt she didn't value you or how you felt.

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