re: Genuine OT help on a new engagee

You definitely need to know what your budget looks like, but your next step is getting a venue locked up. Even a year out, people are already booking their places. Figure out where you want to have it, if it fits in the budget, and then do a site visit and lock that up ASAP. Narrow down a few dates you're both good with and see which ones the venues you like have open. You may find yourself with only one or two viable options once you do that and availability may well dictate the actual date.

Once you have a date, she'll start making some progress. Right now, it's like telling someone to study for a test that there's no date for. You need to have a target to start aiming for with the rest of your planning.