re: Spin-off: Surviving the purchase of bolt-ons for the wife

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All general bolt-on stories/wisdom welcome here. Yeah, sorry no pics

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I can say this with 100 % certainty. If you have unresolved issues in your marriage -- communication, selfishness, respect, trust, etc. --- whatever it may be --- and the two of you can't work through it to listen to one another and not defend or accuse --- it doesn't matter what type of bolt-ons she gets --- your marriage is unlikely to last, and probably less likely now that she has a new found confidence about herself.

All people love attention. And you can be sure as the sun comes up tomorrow, there will be some guy who will notice her. It may be all innocent at first, at least on her end. But if the other guy can listen, be a gentleman, communicate, be funny, hold a conversation, and holds a decent job, more than likely she will want to show those bolt-ons to him, and others in time.

I'm all for people doing whatever it takes, within reason, to feel better about themselves. But make no mistake about it, if you don't do your part in the marriage, someone outside of your marriage will for her.