re: When men worked and women took care of the family. Are we better or worse?

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My wife and I both work. It’s a great life. However, the cost of this life is paid in “missed moments.” I ask myself everyday if the cost is too great. it is! We’re never getting these moments back. My hope is that by us sacrificing our moments with our kids. That will enable our kids to not sacrifice as many missed moments with their kids. That is my hope. It does make us hold on to those moments together when everything is right with us.

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As a working mom whose kids are grown and on their own, I've always known this is the true cost. My kids and generally all kids are not worse off for being in day care, having a working mom, etc. My hubs and I were the ones who suffered. He did so much around the house because I was in a pretty big job and earned more. We both were constantly tired, overworked, never felt we had enough time for anything. We also tended to miss some of our kids big moments although we never missed a game, show, etc. and it was a struggle not to. I would go to my son's 8th grade game at 6pm and then work at home for 2-3 hours at 9 at night. We were frazzled. But truly...our kids were just fine.