My advice is to not listen to losers that are trying to tell a middle aged man with 3 kids to go get drunk at a bar and slay poon.

I'm not divorced, my parents aren't divorced, and I have 8 sets of aunts and uncles that aren't divorced. None of my close friends have been divorced.
I'm not giving advice on something i have absolutely zero experience with, or even experienced as someone close to someone else who's been divorced. The people i know that have been divorced aren't people i talk to regularly, or have ever talked to about their divorce.

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Going out with friends and staying busy helps keep your mind off of things. No one is telling him to drag his three kids to the bar.

His friends aren't hanging out at bars. They are busy bringing their kids to dance, or baseball practice, etc, something he will continue to have to do, all while being a good role model to his kids.

I have two friends who's been divorced somewhat recently, and they are not close friends but ones that always have been friends with some of my close friends, just not me. One of them had a young kid, got divorced at around age 35. Started working out, lost weight, taking steroids, got ripped, and was fricking a different girl every weekend from tindr, always out at bars. While we enjoy all the nudes he sends us of the skanks he's been with, we've had to tell him several times to stop being a loser and hanging out at bars every night, and stop pawning your kid off on your parents on your weekend with him just so you can go fist some tindr skank. He's divorced b/c that's the guy he wants to be, which is fine if that's what he wants, just know that the rest of us with a family don't envy what you're doing, and we aren't going hang out with you at the bar, and sorry if we don't care about getting to know the slut of the month you bring over to the crawfish boil. He was the reason he got divorced. His problem is not only was he a bad husband, but now he's a bad dad.

the other friend also had a young daughter, and got divorced around the same time and age. He married a slut, which we told him before he did it, but he didn't care. This slut literally tried to sleep with one of his groosman the night before the wedding. Finally got a divorce after all the cheating and he's a complete 180 from what the other friend is. He doesn't have time to go work out for an hour and a half every day. He's busy working and has devoted all of his free time to his daughter. It's been 4 years and he just started dating a girl.

two friends, completely different paths after divorce. Doesn't matter what kind of husband either of them were, b/c they aren't husbands anymore, but they are both still fathers, and one of them is still a great father while the other is a loser.

so my advice to the OP who has 3 kids: Don't be the loser. You'll always be your kids dad.