re: How do people cope with separation or divorce?

Divorce is hard. As a man, you define yourself as husband and/or father, so when that dissolves, you don’t have an identity in some respects. I never understood depression or suicide until I was in that position. Looking back I realize it could have consumed me. It’s like a storm: when you’re at the beach, you can see a storm in the distance & know it’s just in that spot with blue skies around it. However, when you’re in the middle of that storm, all you see is darkness. It’s like only the storm exists. The reality is that it will pass & you have to focus on redefining yourself. Get a counselor, do something physical to burn off the stress, get a routine, work on improving yourself. No matter what happens in the future, you have yourself so that’s a good place to focus on improving. It will never be a waste of time. Good luck!