re: How do people cope with separation or divorce?

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How do people keep their minds from going to crazy dark places and handle their shite? This is unbelievably hard. I just want to reset my brain or something. My brother recommended listening to Jordan Peterson on YouTube. Anyone deal with this before?

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I sought counseling to cope with my 13yr marriage ending in a traumatic fashion. I nearly killed myself having written notes to family and setting a date. Thankfully I snapped out of it and sought intensive counseling

Some of the things that helped me break the “dark places” and obsessing over things were

Carrying a tiny notebook in my pocket. When I got “stuck” thinking about things I would stop what I’m doing and write my thoughts out

THE BIGGEST ADVICE I CAN GIVE IS DEVELOP A DAILY ROUTINE THAT IS FILLED WITH SMALL SELF SERVING GOALS

I set goals for physical, personal development, and professional development

I started going to the gym even on days I felt really bad. Even if it was just a light treadmill walk. Do something to be active. The physical exercise is huge in changing your outlook on your future

GET OFF SOCIAL MEDIA COMPLETELY. It will suck at first then you will realize how toxic SM truly was

Small goals. Short timeline. Things that you can congratulate yourself for accomplishing

Surround yourself with your most trusted friends and family. I am incredibly thankful for my friends and the love they showed on me during my darkest days.