re: Encouraging grandparents to move closer to grandkids or simplify. Anyone ever done this?

No, self centered is the retirees demanding that their children drop whatever they're doing multiple times per year and dragging toddlers across country multiple times per year.

It's been hell on my brother, and he's considering no contact with our parents. They just refuse to stop the demands.

Every time I visit them, they have more junk, and they've expanded their house by about a thousand square feet.

When they're gone, I'm going to need a roll-off dumpster.