re: Why do women post about having still borns on social media

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That's one time when a comment section filled with women saying "happened to me too" might actually be helpful

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This. My wife and I just lost our first child at 23 weeks 2 weeks ago. She didn't want to post it, but we were at Walkons after the gym meet the other day (first time going back out in public) and on 2 separate occasions, some people we knew came up to her and told her congratulations on the pregnancy and how was she feeling. The look on my wifes face, and the other persons face when she told them we lost our little girl, is not fun to deal with. So she made a post hoping that difficult conversation out in public didnt have to happen again.

And shes been DM'd by several mothers who dealt with it and are helping her grieve because they understand it.

And this comes all after spending over 25k dollars on 2 IVF cycles, one which failed and one which felt like our miracle, only to end up here. And if God does allow us to get pregnant again, she has said she will not even be posting a pregnancy announcement this time bc its just been too hard on her.

Dont be an a-hole, just scroll past it and live your life.

ETA: And now we could open up our own flowershop at the house with how many plants have been delivered to us. I have read that dark humor is typically a way to grieve and i found out my wife has that; she said yesterday "I'm suppose to be taking care of a baby, not plants" lol