re: How does the OT feel about Botox?

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You're one hand saying it's my fault and let her get botox

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No...I am not saying "let her get Botox" I am saying stop trying to prevent her. She doesnt need your approval or permission but you acting like an arse about it will only cause a wedge that isnt worth it. You want her to feel great but you're making her feel like shite.

I am also not saying it's your fault, I am saying you play a bigger part than you're leading on here that you want to acknowledge.

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in the next paragraph you say how we should work on the reason she wants to get it rather than let her get it. Make up your mind please.

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You need to do both. You need to support your wife's desires, passions and wants and separate them from your desires, passions and wants. AND you also need to make sure that every day your wife knows that you support her, that you love her and think she is gorgeous and you don't think she NEEDS the Botox but if she wants it, you support her in that decision and you don't have to agree that she needs it but you know that because she does you'll stand behind her and stop trying to make her see things your way.

This is not coming from a way of judgement towards you my friend, I am generally trying to help you here. She obviously already feels bad about something for wanting this and it maybe isn't that big of a deal and I can bet the last thing she wants is for you to make her feel worse about it. And for what...to save a few bucks? Just because you don't "agree"? You're going to love her no matter what. You will still think shes beautiful and the emotional threat that you may not isn't going to help you out here.