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re: Are the fiancee and I wrong?
Posted on 4/28/15 at 1:08 pm to Herb484
Posted on 4/28/15 at 1:08 pm to Herb484
Nothing wrong with it, but
This is where all the money is spent. I think the church/wedding costs were probably less than 5k. The reception was probably 5 times that.
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party/reception with food and open bar for our family and friends
This is where all the money is spent. I think the church/wedding costs were probably less than 5k. The reception was probably 5 times that.
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Posted on 4/28/15 at 1:09 pm to thesoccerfanjax
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This is rarely 100% true anymore.
Was for mine (meaning in my family). Brother's first wife's family paid for theirs. My father paid for my sister's.
Not sure who paid for my brother's second marriage. I think they covered it...but my parents took care of the receptions and honey moon.
This post was edited on 4/28/15 at 1:10 pm
Posted on 4/28/15 at 1:10 pm to Herb484
You're doing the right thing for yourselves if that money is more needed for a home as opposed to a bash of a wedding. Just remember the six month rule.
Congrats.
Congrats.
Posted on 4/28/15 at 1:10 pm to Herb484
I have never understood the purpose of a big wedding and expensive reception. If I can get my future SO to agree to it, I want a small, private ceremony and no celebration. I don't need to be the center of attention. I don't even need people to know I got married. Call it the Ron Swanson approach.
Posted on 4/28/15 at 1:10 pm to KG6
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I think the church/wedding costs were probably less than 5k. The reception was probably 5 times that.
Ny strip and Pappy's for everyone?
Posted on 4/28/15 at 1:10 pm to thesoccerfanjax
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Maybe I read the situation wrong. But it seemed like you were implying that it would be rude/wrong to turn down wedding money even if it meant a wedding that the couple didn't want.
Not at all. I agree, if you don't want a big wedding that someone else wants to pay, then politely thank them for the offer and decline the money. However, don't presume that they should give the money to you for something else.
That's why people have been asking the OP whether this money he is talking about is his or someone else's. It makes a difference to me. If is someone else's it would be great if they give he and his girl the option of using it for whatever they want, but making that presumption may be a mistake.
Posted on 4/28/15 at 1:11 pm to KG6
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This is where all the money is spent. I think the church/wedding costs were probably less than 5k. The reception was probably 5 times that.
Damn, we did the whole thing in the $5K range, although her grandparents paid for the catering so I'm not 100% sure how much it cost.
Our biggest expense was the photographer.
Posted on 4/28/15 at 1:11 pm to LeonPhelps
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I have never understood the purpose of a big wedding and expensive reception. If I can get my future SO to agree to it, I want a small, private ceremony and no celebration. I don't need to be the center of attention. I don't even need people to know I got married. Call it the Ron Swanson approach.
It's not about you. It's a chance for the families to show off. Sure, it's kind of about the kids, but it's really about the mothers of the bride and groom.
Posted on 4/28/15 at 1:16 pm to thesoccerfanjax
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Not really. If you really go all out, flowers would probably be the most expensive.
Know how I know you haven't planned a wedding?
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Plus, hardly anyone has a truly "open bar" anymore. Usually beer + wine and then two "signatures drinks".
Know how I know you haven't planned a wedding in NOLA?
Posted on 4/28/15 at 1:17 pm to thesoccerfanjax
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Ny strip and Pappy's for everyone?
If you have any sort of sizable guest list, hitting $25k doesn't require fancy food and drink to be served.
Posted on 4/28/15 at 1:17 pm to LNCHBOX
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Know how I know you haven't planned a wedding?
I have actually. A little less than than two years ago.
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Know how I know you haven't planned a wedding in NOLA?
And thank God for that.
Posted on 4/28/15 at 1:18 pm to thesoccerfanjax
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Plus, hardly anyone has a truly "open bar" anymore. Usually beer + wine and then two "signatures drinks".
Yea I've been to several cheapo weddings lately that only have beer and wine, the strugg
Posted on 4/28/15 at 1:18 pm to LNCHBOX
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If you have any sort of sizable guest list, hitting $25k doesn't require fancy food and drink to be served.
Well that depends on what you consider "sizeable".
Posted on 4/28/15 at 1:18 pm to thesoccerfanjax
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I have actually. A little less than than two years ago.
Then you're either out of touch with costs, or got duped into buying overpriced flowers.
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And thank God for that.
We're better off without you.
Posted on 4/28/15 at 1:19 pm to Herb484
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Are the fiancee and I wrong?
Hell no! You don't have the hassle of a wedding and y'all save money.
Sounds like a win-win to me.
Posted on 4/28/15 at 1:19 pm to PurpleandGold Motown
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Wait...
They expect you to pay for it?
Bride's family pays the bill for the wedding. No wonder she was all about it. You left money on the table, brah.
:kige:
If not, you're doing it wrong.
Posted on 4/28/15 at 1:19 pm to elposter
It would be a little of everthing. My money and whatver her parents want to contribute to the wedding. We are not the type of people to expect our parents to pay for things. We both have good jobs that pay well.
This post was edited on 4/28/15 at 1:20 pm
Posted on 4/28/15 at 1:19 pm to PurpleandGold Motown
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It's not about you. It's a chance for the families to show off.
I have zero interest in catering to that. They can use some other proxy to make themselves feel better.
Posted on 4/28/15 at 1:19 pm to thesoccerfanjax
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Well that depends on what you consider "sizeable".
200 is a not particularly big, and can easily exceed $25k.
This post was edited on 4/28/15 at 1:20 pm
Posted on 4/28/15 at 1:22 pm to LNCHBOX
The wife and I just had a big crawfish boil with a alot of friends over. JOP in the backyard and it was a party. F what everybody thinks, pretty much just a dumbass show than anything else
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