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re: Are the fiancee and I wrong?

Posted on 4/28/15 at 12:35 pm to
Posted by ksayetiger
Centenary Gents
Member since Jul 2007
68265 posts
Posted on 4/28/15 at 12:35 pm to
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You do what's best for the both of you. F what everyone else thinks.



Yep.

And if they dont like it they can pay for your wedding
Posted by elposter
Member since Dec 2010
24857 posts
Posted on 4/28/15 at 12:35 pm to
quote:

We tell them that we actually do not plan on having a "wedding" because we rather spend all that money on the house we are planning to buy and instead just do the JOP thing with a party/reception with food and open bar for our family and friends.


Your money or someone else's?
Posted by Shamalamadingdong
Member since Mar 2015
188 posts
Posted on 4/28/15 at 12:35 pm to
I wouldn't even do an open bar. Just make them all drink beer. That savings will pay a few months utilities.

You do it like you are saying and you'll never have to worry about reading Dave Ramsey.
Posted by taylork37
Member since Mar 2010
15319 posts
Posted on 4/28/15 at 12:35 pm to
Although I am on the "do whatever you need to do" bandwagon, I can see how this would be disappointing for certain close family members.

Maybe there is a compromise where you don't have a full wedding but some sort of low key celebration/party. Outside of close family though, it shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks.
This post was edited on 4/28/15 at 12:38 pm
Posted by Yat27
Austin
Member since Nov 2010
8108 posts
Posted on 4/28/15 at 12:35 pm to
I think it's a smart move. Believe me, I would have loved to avoid spending $40K+ for a one day party. I also don't see how it's anyone else's business, unless they're paying for it.
Posted by rebeloke
Member since Nov 2012
16063 posts
Posted on 4/28/15 at 12:36 pm to
Is it wrong to go Beta? No.
Posted by Eric Nies Grind Time
Atlanta GA - ITP
Member since Sep 2012
24933 posts
Posted on 4/28/15 at 12:36 pm to
quote:

I think it's much wiser to invest in a house that you will end up splitting 50/50 once the divorce is finalized


Posted by tigerstripedjacket
This side of the wall
Member since Sep 2011
2999 posts
Posted on 4/28/15 at 12:36 pm to
Yer doin it right, baw.
Posted by sleepytime
Member since Feb 2014
3568 posts
Posted on 4/28/15 at 12:38 pm to
Don't worry about it, anyone that's bothered by it will get over it.

PS: make double, triple sure your fiancé doesn't have any other ideas or suggestions
Posted by Cap Crunch
Fire Alleva
Member since Dec 2010
54189 posts
Posted on 4/28/15 at 12:39 pm to
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This was both of our ideas...which btw is awesome she agreed to it right away.

Posted by KajunGator
Lake Arthur, LA
Member since May 2011
7284 posts
Posted on 4/28/15 at 12:39 pm to
quote:

No pics btw...haha you beaches!



Yet you want advice?
Posted by mikelbr
Baton Rouge
Member since Apr 2008
47462 posts
Posted on 4/28/15 at 12:40 pm to
quote:

e rather spend all that money on the house we are planning to buy and instead just do the JOP thing with a party/reception with food and open bar for our family and friends.


Absolutely right thing to do if that's what she wants. Weddings are alllll about the woman. Doesn't hurt that it's awesomely fiscally responsible too.

Posted by MikeBRLA
Baton Rouge
Member since Jun 2005
16448 posts
Posted on 4/28/15 at 12:40 pm to
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Recently got engaged and I wish we could do what you are doing. This wedding planning crap is borderline miserable to come home to every day after work.


If you are a male you are doing it all wrong. The wedding is for the bride so why do you care what color the flowers are? I told my now wife all I need to know is what time I need to be at the church and if she's lucky I'll be there
Posted by hogminer
Bella Vista, AR.
Member since Apr 2010
9626 posts
Posted on 4/28/15 at 12:41 pm to
You're a smart man that married the right kind of woman is what it sounds like to me.
Posted by coolpapaboze
Parts Unknown
Member since Dec 2006
15776 posts
Posted on 4/28/15 at 12:41 pm to
quote:

Do you think we are doing the correct thing financially speaking?
No question, this is a mature and rational decision. Throw a party to celebrate your marriage, it's a lot cheaper, checks the box for letting family celebrate, and you can still get gifts.
Posted by wildtigercat93
Member since Jul 2011
112206 posts
Posted on 4/28/15 at 12:42 pm to
It's a great financial decision


But there is like a 60 percent chance she will flip the script on this whole thing when it gets closer to the "wedding"

And like a 110 percent chance that she will want a twice as expensive wedding after like 5 years of being married when she gets jealous of her friends are having all these big wedding


Bitches do be crazy ya know
Posted by DownSouthDave
Beau, Bro, Baw
Member since Jan 2013
7366 posts
Posted on 4/28/15 at 12:42 pm to
Seems like you hear about a lot of regretting spending 30k on a wedding...not a lot of people saying it was worth it.

Gonzales Jambalaya wedding > most other weddings.
Posted by NFLSU
Screwston, Texas
Member since Oct 2014
16626 posts
Posted on 4/28/15 at 12:42 pm to
Sounds like you've got a keeper

Posted by mikelbr
Baton Rouge
Member since Apr 2008
47462 posts
Posted on 4/28/15 at 12:43 pm to
quote:

If you are a male you are doing it all wrong. The wedding is for the bride so why do you care what color the flowers are?


I can relate. First wife had me running all over South La to pick out shite every weekend leading up to it. If it wasn't wedding planning shite, it was furniture stores, bed bath and beyond, etc.

I am the last person to listen to for marital advice but I do know that if you're wife is making yo do all that shite before a wedding, You'll be miserable until your second marriage.

Posted by TigerHam85
59-024 Kamehameha Highway
Member since Nov 2009
31493 posts
Posted on 4/28/15 at 12:43 pm to
frick a wedding. Enjoy your upvote
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