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re: Are the fiancee and I wrong?
Posted on 4/28/15 at 12:44 pm to Herb484
Posted on 4/28/15 at 12:44 pm to Herb484
quote:You were going to pay for the wedding yourself? Or her Dad is just willing to give you money?
My fiancee and I just got engaged two weeks ago. Everyone keeps on asking us about our plan and what we want to do. We tell them that we actually do not plan on having a "wedding" because we rather spend all that money on the house we are planning to buy and instead just do the JOP thing with a party/reception with food and open bar for our family and friends. This was both of our ideas...which btw is awesome she agreed to it right away. Do you think we are doing the correct thing financially speaking? Is it tacky that we are thinking this way? We would rather spend all those Benjamins on a DP for a house than a one day only party. No pics btw...haha you beaches!Thanks
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Posted on 4/28/15 at 12:44 pm to Herb484
Sounds smart to me. Congrats and best wishes!
Posted on 4/28/15 at 12:45 pm to Herb484
The wife and I did the same thing back when we got married.
We didn't do all the trendy BS.
We kept it small and easy with very little planning.
I was so glad once the day came that it was that easy.
We didn't do all the trendy BS.
We kept it small and easy with very little planning.
I was so glad once the day came that it was that easy.
Posted on 4/28/15 at 12:45 pm to Herb484
quote:
Is it tacky
Possibly
quote:
Do you think we are doing the correct thing financially speaking?
If you and your fiancee agree on the same financial plan then there is nothing wrong with what you are doing. Screw everyone else and do whats right for you.
Posted on 4/28/15 at 12:45 pm to Herb484
It's your wedding and your decision
And I agree with both of you
And I agree with both of you
Posted on 4/28/15 at 12:46 pm to Herb484
Not trashy at all. If anything, you're not wanting to show off and have your friends sacrifice a weekend for your sakes. My parents have told my sister this is an option in having a much smaller wedding and giving her the difference for a new house. I doubt she'll do it, but it's certainly what my parents would rather do.
Posted on 4/28/15 at 12:46 pm to Herb484
When my wife and I got engaged, we started the whole looking for a venue, dress, catering, etc. It was daunting and so damn expensive. My wife was still in school, I was making chicken scratch at my first real job.
One day we decided, screw this, set a date 56 days from that day. Had a backyard bash instead.
We cooked all the food, bought a keg, had wine made by a local winery with our names on the label, hired a preacher for 100 bucks, a family friend as a DJ.
The wife got to walk down the "aisle" with family and friends around, and everyone got to party.
We came in at around 3-4k with dress and everything. At the end oft he day we are just as married as everyone else.
One day we decided, screw this, set a date 56 days from that day. Had a backyard bash instead.
We cooked all the food, bought a keg, had wine made by a local winery with our names on the label, hired a preacher for 100 bucks, a family friend as a DJ.
The wife got to walk down the "aisle" with family and friends around, and everyone got to party.
We came in at around 3-4k with dress and everything. At the end oft he day we are just as married as everyone else.
Posted on 4/28/15 at 12:47 pm to Herb484
Just make DAMN sure she really is on board with this, otherwise she will hold it against you forever.
Posted on 4/28/15 at 12:47 pm to Herb484
If you are paying for the wedding then it is your choice and do what you want. If her family is paying for the wedding instead and you ask them for money for a house downpayment in lieu of a wedding, that is tacky.
Posted on 4/28/15 at 12:47 pm to Herb484
My in-laws told us that they would either pay for the wedding or give us 30 grand towards our next house. We went with the wedding because it was her dream since she was little. A couple of times we've said "we should've taken the money" only because it can get so stressful...especially when its really elaborate. but we both know we would've regretted it had we not done the wedding.
long story short...do what makes you and your fiance happy
long story short...do what makes you and your fiance happy
Posted on 4/28/15 at 12:48 pm to Herb484
I give her right around 16 months before she drops the, "...you wouldn't even give me a wedding!!!"
Posted on 4/28/15 at 12:48 pm to JGtoo
quote:
Just make DAMN sure she really is on board with this, otherwise she will hold it against you forever.
yep. i'd be asking atleast once a week
Posted on 4/28/15 at 12:49 pm to MikeBRLA
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If you are a male you are doing it all wrong. The wedding is for the bride so why do you care what color the flowers are? I told my now wife all I need to know is what time I need to be at the church and if she's lucky I'll be there
I told her to just tell me when and where to be, and I'll be there. She "agreed" to it, but still asks for my input on everything.
I've now resorted to just picking the ugliest options so she thinks I have bad taste and doesn't want my input anymore.
Posted on 4/28/15 at 12:49 pm to Herb484
OP - is this your money or someone else's? If someone else's (aka - her parents) I'm assuming they are okay with just giving you the money?
Posted on 4/28/15 at 12:49 pm to Herb484
You are smart. Large weddings are a foolish money pit.
Posted on 4/28/15 at 12:50 pm to Herb484
Whatever is best for you. We let other ppl dictate how we did it, I personally wish we wouldnt have.
Dont let anyone tell you how to live your life.
Dont let anyone tell you how to live your life.
Posted on 4/28/15 at 12:51 pm to wildtigercat93
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But there is like a 60 percent chance she will flip the script on this whole thing when it gets closer to the "wedding"
That depends on if she's the typical female or not. If she actually has a backbone and is an individual thinker and not a follower, then jealousy of her friends ridiculously blowing $30k on a wedding and going through all of that stress will not even phase her. In fact, she may even chuckle inside.
Posted on 4/28/15 at 12:51 pm to OMLandshark
What kind of shitty weddings do you go to look at it as "sacrificing a weekend?"
Posted on 4/28/15 at 12:51 pm to OceanMan
quote:
We let other ppl dictate how we did it, I personally wish we wouldnt have.
Did these other people pay for it?
Posted on 4/28/15 at 12:53 pm to elposter
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Did these other people pay for it?
What difference does it make?
It's THEIR wedding. They don't have to take the money.
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