LetTheTigerOut

It's called 'chafing', both males and females get it, and there's products for it.

How do you not know this? :lol:

anti-chafe products

Maybe they'll do Patton next.

Sorry to have to say this, but your marriage appears to be in the danger zone. When you mentioned that she spends much of her time with her friends I let out a little 'uh oh.'

She has clearly checked out by showing her disinterest in her domestic situation, ie, you, the children, and home--and sending signals that she is unhappy.

Two signs of major marriage trouble are turning attention/time away from each other, specifically, to people outside of the home, and lack of communication.

This is the red flag that there are serious issues, and are more deeply rooted than you may realize.

It's possible that she's in early stages of being a 'walkaway wife.' It seems you two are not well connected at this time.

I would almost guarantee that you have been the topic of conversation with her friends, and wouldn't be surprised if a few have even said "I never cared much for him."

I only tell you this so that you realize that you are somewhat in a de facto tug-of-war for your wife. She's using her friends for emotional support, and you can best believe that some of them are poisoning the well. This leads me to the next point---that some her friends may turn out to be vipers in the bosom, in that they will deliberately undermine her, ie. frenemies, that instead of really wanting to see her in a happy marriage, will actually sabotage the efforts.

My advice is to try to quickly mend this divide, to re-connect, and then address the other issues together. You will probably need professional help to navigate this.

In the meantime, just be honest -- go to her and tell her you know she is struggling with something, and let her know you're not angry, and that you very much want to see her happy and healthy, and that you are committed to making whatever changes are necessary to bring joy back to your marriage. Let her know that even though you might not have communicated it, you know that things have not been easy for her, and although you might not say or show it often enough, you love her, and that you miss her.

And then be willing to put the hard work in to save and strengthen your marriage before it devolves into a 'silent divorce.'

One more thing...



Best of luck for all of your family, may you be blessed.

Stash your cash in a geocache.

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Jesus wants his followers to be one with him in the exact same way that he is one with the Father.

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That's not the meaning of that verse.

The whole context is that before Jesus goes to Gethsemane He prays 1) for Himself 2) His disciples 3) those who will come to faith in Him through the ministry of the apostles.

In the verse you quoted, Jesus is praying for the spiritual well-being and unity of believers as a whole. The 'oneness' is for solidarity through love, not integration (into the Trinity).

Poor child. What a cruel fate. Go to have fun in the sun only to be pulled away and gone in a matter of minutes. The horror of it all, for her and her family.

I wish more people knew not to swim near jetties, piers, or sandbars. Very strong, dangerous currents develop quickly, especially in these areas, and can sweep people up and away in shockingly shallow water.

Also, people that know how to swim and would not drown in a pool can and do drown in open water. Even athletic, strong swimmers.

It's a false sense of security to believe knowing how to swim will save someone. In addition to the challenges of rapidly changing conditions driven by powerful forces is the fatigue that sets in. A person may be swimming, but they're not really moving and getting anywhere, and eventually succumb to exhaustion.

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tasteful arm sleeve

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Textbook example of oxymoron.

The blight of ink has diminished their beauty, not enhanced it.

"I don't want to belong to any club that will accept me as a member.”

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