othollow

I hurt for your and your children's loss. You have experienced a "90 degree blind curve" in life, and are now beginning a journey on an unfamiliar path through a dark forest with an unknown destination. Although my blind curve occurred slightly later(30 years of a great marriage with our youngest aged 12), our paths are similar. I am just a little farther along the way(just made the 5 year anniversary). Thus, I have an understanding of certain things, including:

The "tidal waves" which can instantly force a very strong man to become a sobbing puddle,
The pain of assisting children through the grieving process,
The feeling that "home" is no longer home,
The extreme sadness and loneliness that occurs in the "quiet times", after everyone is asleep,
The feelings of despair, being lost, and being incomplete due to the massive void,
And the seemingly contradictory feeling of hopeful optimism regarding what the future may bring.

While I would certainly not purport to have all, or perhaps any, of the answers, there are a few important, timely concepts which I can offer:

Firmly hold on to your faith, including that you will see her again,
Be strong for your children, as you are needed now more than ever, and blanket each other in love, and
Although the "tidal waves" are currently unexpected tsunamis, over time both the height and the frequency of the waves will decrease.

Please know that you are not alone. Thus, should you desire, please feel free to reach out to me at othollow@gmail.com.

Sorry for your loss Kingcakegirl. As your minimal posting history indicates that you may seek more than quips and anecdotal responses, the most legitimate commentary regarding such matter would be based upon factors unique to you and, perhaps, could be best answered by a person who has been, and is, walking a similar path. As I am a widower, I maintain a special place in my heart for persons who have experienced such loss. As such, feel free to email me at othollow@gmail.com. Otherwise, there is always the vast breadth and depth of knowledge of the OT.

Thank you for the degree of civility. I am not anti-vax. My sole purpose was simply to demonstrate that that lack of understanding and the ability to discuss the matter without emotionalism and misinformation keeps the chasm wide between the camps.

I will provide a response to you in a while, as I currently have a more important obligation.

The overwhelming ignorance displayed in this thread, which exists in both the vax/anti vax camps, compels my response and I can more than defend, first hand, my position, while also providing an education to the vast majority of obviously younger posters herein, who apparently have no have reasonable historical knowledge of such matters.


"fool, foolish, idiot, idiotic, selfish, a-hole, blind, fricking crazy, nuts, public menace, moron, dangerous, stupid, bat shite crazy, delusion(al), dumb arse, bioterrorist, dumb fricker, and pro-plague"...WOW!!! Ready to get some education youngsters? Then strap yourself in.

1)Do you really think that vaccinations can entirely protect your child? Have you held your only child, a 5 year old daughter who had never been sick a day, while she died, 24 hours after returning from Disney World after contracting a virus that not even CDC could identify? I HAVE! And she was vaccinated.

2)Have you held your infant son while he experienced grand mal seizures on one side of his body for 24 hours beginning 45 minutes after receiving a combo vaccination? I HAVE! He is now age 22 and is profoundly autistic. While I will not state that the vaccination "caused" his autism, I will emphatically state that the vaccination caused a severe traumatic neurological event to one side of my infant son's brain.

3)Have you any knowledge of the National Vaccine Injury Compensation Fund, a 1996 Federal mandate which required that a portion of the fee for all vaccinations be held by the Federal government for the payment of vaccine related injuries? Do you think that the Federal government knew a problem existed? The fund was so overwhelmed it became insolvent quickly and limited claim payments to only those who could clearly prove, via documented evidence, that the vaccination had effectively made the child into a "vegetable".

4)Do you think that the vaccination schedule/protocol has always been the same as currently? Go research it. You will find that several changes were made at a single time. Do you think the government knew a problem existed?

5)Conspiracy? Let's just say that, at least for a period of time, a convenient circular protection existed covering government, pharma, and the physicians where none faced any culpability.

I do take great offense at the vitriolic labeling by persons who have extremely limited to nonexistent knowledge of the subject matter. I am a widower and single parent, and truly pray that none of you experience any of the things which I have. Our other children were educated on the potential risks and benefits and allowed to make an informed decision at an age appropriate level.

Perhaps none of us knows quite as much as we think we do.