re: Would you ask your SO to do this?

I’m just now seeing this thread, but To be able to drive 3 hours to NOLA, knowing I’d get lucky, have a free room that night, eat lunch and come home? Geez. I’m all over that. What’s the problem man? Prolly get it in the morning too. SMH

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She asks you to go to NOLA to spend the night with her in a hotel you're not paying for, and have lunch with her tomorrow...on her birthday...and you're mad at her?

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He’s mad at himself because he feels pulled into her frame.

It’s her job. Her client. Her hotel room. Her birthday. Her lunch. Her needs.

If he’d rearrange his mental model, he’d see this as a potential for himself. Hotel sex, good lunch, good conversation about her client and his new job while at lunch. Podcasts in the car. Plan something fun or stupid like taking fun pictures around the city.

Doesn’t really matter but the guy had a choice to go and have fun or not go and tell her to figure it out herself. Instead, he’s going and not having fun and being a needy kid for her job.

3.5 hours is nothing… I drove to auburn from Baton Rouge after Ivan once with an exgf. Woke up and said let’s go for a 2:30 game, went to game, then drove back to BR same day because I had to work on Sunday.