re: Raising a child now costs over $300,000 in the U.S., study finds.

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What does a nanny 2 days a week do when the kid goes to day care 5 days a week?

Honest question.

My wife has been home with my kids for almost 4 years now (3.5 yr old, 1.5 yr old, and 8.5 months pregnant). So while we gave up her six figure salary, I don't have any of these expenses besides a baby sitter 1-2 times a month.

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I 100% know we are paying more than necessary, and it does frustrate me sometimes to feel like we are double paying. But my wife makes the big bucks and feels a greater emotional burden being away from him during the workday, so she makes the call.

My wife doesn't want him in preschool 30+ hours a week, so he gets a half day with a nanny for 2 days. I also spend some half days with him, because my work is more flexible.

But we have to pay the full-time preschool tuition regardless of how many days we actually use it, and we need it full-time at least 2 days a week because of our schedules. We've looked at cheaper, part-time options, and they just don't work for us from a pickup and dropoff standpoint. And nobody reputable lets you pay for only a few days a week.

We don't pay the nanny when she's not keeping him. She has other families. She also helps some with housework, shopping, and chores.

Makes financial sense giving up a six-figure salary to raise 3 kids under 4, but not 1. We're both over 40. This will be our only child, and 4-5 years out of the workforce would pretty much kill either of our careers.

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Buckstyn

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How much does it cost if you walk across the border without a penny to your name, no home, no job, and no food ?

Like the 12 million people the democrats

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My vasectomy was only like $3k.

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yep had 2

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was having two necessary? Or was it such a good deal you had to buy two?

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$300,000 in the U.S

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thats it?

i spend that on travel ball every year

fricking amatuers...if you dont have 100k in credit card debt, you are doing it wrong!!

My wife is a stay at home mom. My kids are costing me many many times more than that in lost income from my educated wife not working. Thats a ~ $80k a year hit, not counting the actual expenses which are crazy high.

Its totally worth it, but these studies never take that into account just because its so uncommon these days, although it does seem to be gaining ground. Im blessed to have a good enough job for us to be able to do it, but you've got to really wanna do it to do it these days.

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makes you wonder how poor people have so many kids

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Raising kids correctly =/= having kids

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My wife has been splitting time with my daughter’s MIL baby sitting the grandson. He’s almost 3 and hasn’t been in daycare yet. We are getting a granddaughter soon. Not sure what the plan is once my daughter goes back to work. Childcare cost is unbelievable. Without family, I’m not sure how people get it done.

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100%

Wife was stay at home for about 3 years and then was fed up with it. It'd been a whole lot better had we had family around.

Daycare was $260/week for two children.

They go to Catholic school now, it's only about $50/month more.

This is what gets stupid when people say "move to another place to find a job"...having experienced that now three times in my life, it's not easy to deal with kids when you are on your own little island because a lack of family surrounding you.

As family units get smaller, this issue is only going to get worse for future generations...used to be that folks had tons of cousins, uncles, aunts, extended family...with families getting smaller, those options will diminish rapidly for everyday folks

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My vasectomy was only like $3k.

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Definitely interested! Because apparently the procedure didn’t work and now I’ve got another mouth to feed. I guess the baby being dark skinned is a side effect of the surgery.